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Still being in contact with him just reminds you of how happy you were when you were together, which compounds the depression you feel now that you are apart. Unfortunately, in a relationship where you thought he was the one, but he apparently didn't, makes this emotionally devastating. I was in that position, and I had to break all ties with my ex, go through the pain, and move on. It was easier breaking all ties, but certainly not easy. I still think about that ex every now and then, but the pain is gone. That was 20 years ago. BTW, it didn't take 20 years to get over the pain, but almost a year before I could date other people on a serious level. Hang in there.