I met this girl at a club, and we really hit it off. After about 3 months or so of dating, we had sex, but she was a virgin. She became really clingy afterward, and I decided to call it off after 5 months, because she left for abroad and I just feel suffocated, having to Skype her everyday and night, and messaging her in my free time.
Obviously things got really messy... she accused me of playing her, or using her, and a lot of things were said that really hurt me and her. She was really in love with me, and even talked about marriage (!). Because I was a bit naive I agreed to stay in the relationship. Now a month later I finally broke up with her over Skype
I just feel terrible that a woman who loved me so much, gave me everything (her viriginity) and I just kind of selfishly blew it off. I knew it wasn't working after she left, and I feel like shit for giving her false hope and play with her heart.
But I know she can definitely find someone more deserving of her love. If I didn't break it, I would be living a lie... I read somewhere a guy went back to his ex because his ex loves him, and after 7 years when they are now both in their 30's and about to marry, that then he decides to break up for good. I don't want to waste her youth
I just regret the way I broke up with her. From a third person, it really looked as if I was just in it for the sex. I'm not, I really wasn't... If you are reading this, I love you still, but not in love... I genuinely wish for your happiness, and I hope those tears can dry up soon.
Thank you for the responses!
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Coming from someone who's been in a long distance relationship for over a year...it's hard as hell. Not many people can handle it and it's rough.
Honestly it sounds like you did the right thing. You wanted her to be happy and didn't want to drag something on you knew would hurt her more down the road. Whether she understands that or not you made the right choice. Props to you for recognizing it early on and making the decision to end it when most wouldn't have the guts too.
Everyone makes mistakes and it sounds like you made a few. But at least you had the heart to end it and not hurt her far worse down the road. You'll both move on and it sounds like it's for the best.0