She made me look like a real monster to all her friends and family, and after i caught her she fessed up, admitting she "didn't know" why she was doing what she did, and knows she crushed me.
she's been on and off on anxiety pills, and terrible birth control that has messed with her mental psyche, and admits that she thinks she just went mental over this some how.
I called her out on her bullshit, and now we're at a standstill.
She wants a second chance; should I give it to her; why?
Here's a little additional info so to have a fully unbiased opinion:
1. We started dating she was 17, I was 19, she's been with me since, and hasn't lived a regular young teenage girl/adult life because she moved in and I'm not the drinking / party kinda guy.
2. she's never cheated before.
3. She does have a tendency of loosing her marbles.
4. she's always been with me, and doesn't really go out much so I know she couldn't have done anything until very recently.
5. She works with this guy.
6. She lied to her friends and family saying really bad stuff about me to ease the pain of what she was doing on herself, and made me look like the bad guy to save face.
6. Even after all this, I am Angry, upset, betrayed and feel reduced to nothing; HOWEVER, I do still love her with all my heart and do want this to work.
I've made mistakes in the past, never quite like this, but I believe everyone f***s up once in their life. she's agreed to come clean to everyone about all the lies.
Most Helpful Girl
It's a tough question. You love her, which is a pro for giving a second chance, but the problem is: that's the only pro. She hurt you, lied about you to her friends and family, almost cheated, has a tendency to lose it, ... Do you see a stable future with her? I'm all for giving a second chance, I mean, we all make a mistake. But the hurt and pain coming from that mistake should be taken into account. Will you be able to trust her after this?
I've given second chances and somehow most people screw them up, which lead to being hurt a second time.2
Most Helpful Guy
There is not a happily ever after in this case. If she has a tendency to lose her marbles and go bats on you, you are setting yourself up for more of the same behavior. Love is stupid and blind sometimes, but you have to also look at what its going to do with you. If you love her, get her some help, get her to a therapist, but if you aren't going to do that, then you are just slitting your own wrists here. You can't help her on your own, there is not promises that she won't do this again, only worse.
If you do give her a second chance you do it at your own peril.1