So here's my story... I was 18 when I met him, he was 21. I was suffering from anorexia, but fell head over heals in love with him. As our relationship became more serious, he started fighting against my anorexia, telling me I would have to choose between him and my disease. After fights, lies, manipulating and a lot of almost-break up situations, I chose him. But in the year following that moment, I got entangled in other addictions: binge eating and a sport addiction. During our whole relationship we kept fighting our demons to stay together, out of love for one another. He put huge amounts of energy into me, trying to drag me through whatever I was going through.
I study Chinese, so for my studies, I left to China, twice. Only the second time, something cracked. One weekend, he skyped me, telling me that he couldn't do this anymore, that he needed to figure out what his life was like without me. He said that he had been giving up parts of his life for me, following me in my decisions , coming to China, spending less time with his friends, all for 'us'. He then said that he had met another girl and that they got along so well. She drank beer (I of course didn't), she loved to party, she was easy, no heavy baggage, just.. fun.
Even though he had broken up with me, he kept texting me saying that he missed me, that this was so hard. I flew back to try and win him back. He ended up breaking up with this girl, spending a lot of time with me, sleeping with me. We had a great month, although I was dying on the inside because he said he wanted to wasn't changing his mind about the break-up, he needed time.
Now that I am back in China and he left travelling, he still keeps telling me that he thinks I am the woman of his life, that he thinks he will come back to me, that he still loves me and longs for me.. But all I keep thinking is, is that he will stop loving me or realize he doesn't love me anymore. That he will meet someone else..
Do I believe him? Do I wait?
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Basically he needs space and time to figure out if he truly is in love with you and if he can stand not having you in his life as his girlfriend im 22 I lost mine kind of that way but! He came back around so I guess he can't or doesn't know how
Wait? Mmm in a way yes but then no focus on you and do the same as well see if you can live w/o him or if you can't do so by continuing your life and if after some time you realize you still want something then you cant, let him know reach out to him once you realize it and if he feels the same hell come bck around0