but anyways i had been trying to reconcile our relationship as I still loved her and saw a future for us together. she had returned home from school and i had seen her several times and things seemed better but on Friday night I was at local pub and she arrived with her gf and this guy I had never seen before. so I talk to them and gf mentions she is dating this guy , I'm surprised but she knows a lot of guys so not a total shock but then I find out its much more serious than I realised and she has known him since before I even meet her and that he lives and works out west which might explain why I have never seen him before. they also appeared to have chemistry and it didn't look fake like just to make me jealous type of thing , it also appears very likely there having sex. I've known this girl for almost 2 years and just blown away that I didn't even know about his guy during the times we were friends and causally dated last summer.
I'm just a mess after finding this out and totally devastated that we are not going to be getting back together this summer. I don't understand why she'd want to date a guy she only talks to on internet over a guy down the street who is in love with her. I don't know how to accept the reality of this situation and how I could even look her in the face after finding this out? I'm still friends with some of her gf's and we got to same bars and honestly I don't know what I'm suppose to do
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Honestly, if y'all relationship is unstable for being "on and off", of course she's going to have a back up. She isn't going to commit & devote herself to someone whom she doesn't feel secure with. Really, it sounds like this guy is the one she truly wants to be with and you were just there to fill a void. I'd say cut off communication and find someone new that you're actually ready to commit to.