Hi, this is my first post i really hope you guys can help me out of this mess, well my girlfriend and i been dating for more than 2 years about 3 weeks ago we had a fight and things got really ugly and see said I want to finish this i just said Ok, have a Nice life... i didn't want to say that. took me 5 days to cool off and call her, we talked About a lot of things, she said her mind was made up and that she didn't want to stay with me, I asked her to go out and talk, wrote her a Letter, bought flowers to apologize but she doesn't want to give me another chance, I love her i just want her to be back. Im having some rough days, Im not sleeping well, thinking about her the whole day I don't know if im acting too needy, should i just let her go? Should i insist? First time i've feel like this in my whole life, im 28 btw...so basically whats the next step?
Most Helpful Girl
I don't want to sugar coat because id want you to give me honest advice too...I think she cares for you as a person but is not in love with you she emailed you that she knows she's making a mistake she says that because you must be kind to her& have a great heart BUT..when a woman tells you she isn't happy it most likely means she wants more, more adventure , attention, fun, more life coming from this relationship you guys must not do much spontaneous things & seems like she wants to seek if there is anything better out there.I respect her for admitting she's not happy & for not continuing this relationship because her unhappiness WILL make her cheat & just constantly argue.You tried & did your part , by you saying have a nice life was like a burden lifted off her shoulder she's over you.your 28 don't waste precious time&life.good luck!0
Most Helpful Guy
You are acting too needy. Probably because this is the longest relationship you've had, and you desperately don't want to be single again.
But she seems adamant that it's over. In which case chasing her is the worst possible thing you could do, since it will only piss her off even more.
If you stand any chance to get her back (and it's only a tiny barely non-zero chance at that) it's by pulling back and going No-Contact.0