My relationship ended after nine years and understand I trusted him implicitly. However, after not seeing him for quite sometime I began to suspect he was not telling me the entire truth.
Allegedly, he was sharing a home with a woman who he claims to be only a "roomie" (this was how he referred to her.) He would send me political info which he also sent to several others and I noted her e-mail address. You can guess what I did. I e-mailed her and she set me straight. Of course, he is all upset and ended our "relationship."
Please know I saw the red flags, but refused to see reality. Also, know "we" are not kids and are both retired. Believe me I have kicked myself for being so stupid and can only continue to go forward while trying to remain positive that I will feel better.
- In today's culture is it better to do a background check before getting seriously involved?Vote A
- Is it important that the woman he is living with know the two of you were intimate? She acknowleges he likes to talk to women on line, but should she know the two of you were intimate?Vote B
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Ouch that is not nice.
We have to put complete trust in people and unfortunatly sometimes find out the hard way. We ignore the bad signs as we want to believe the fairy tale is true.
Broken heart. Hmm.
Well the first week. Be angry, cry if you want to. Eat cake and ice cream. It is important to grieve.
Then go and see a friend or family member who you trust.
Go out for a drink or some food, maybe a walk. Tell them how bad your feeling and why.
Try not to talk about it too much but let it out. Try and have normal conversations and let them distract you.
Join a free dating site and just talk to some other men. Even if your not ready just talk to people. There are some sites where you can talk to millitary personal who are deployed to afghan ect. And they appreciate someone to talk to and pass the time. This is not meant to find you someone new. Just turn you thoughts and attention away from said ex.
Don't talk to your ex for a couple of weeks, even if he gets hold of you. You are b.u.s.y.
Join a fitness club, eat healthy, meet with friends. Start a new hobby. Go for walks.
Do something you have always wanted to do.
Take care of your looks, always look your best, smell great everytime you leave the house.
Look at some photography studeos that do makeovers and photoshoots (the will also retouch and really show of your good bits)
Keep yourself busy and do things that make you feel good.
Whilst you are not talking to ex and focusing on you, you can work out what you really want,
If he wants to take you back you will have had time to think things through and reflect.
And if he doesn't contact you, you have time to think if its worth returning to him and if you will contact him in a few weeks to start a fresh new relationship, forgive him for before but he would need to know he has to work for trust.
If you don't want him back it's all about you now.
It will take time to move on. It hurts and it is not nice but it will get easier.0