My relationship ended after nine years and understand I trusted him implicitly. However, after not seeing him for quite sometime I began to suspect he was not telling me the entire truth.
Allegedly, he was sharing a home with a woman who he claims to be only a "roomie" (this was how he referred to her.) He would send me political info which he also sent to several others and I noted her e-mail address. You can guess what I did. I e-mailed her and she set me straight. Of course, he is all upset and ended our "relationship."
Please know I saw the red flags, but refused to see reality. Also, know "we" are not kids and are both retired. Believe me I have kicked myself for being so stupid and can only continue to go forward while trying to remain positive that I will feel better.
- In today's culture is it better to do a background check before getting seriously involved?Vote A
- Is it important that the woman he is living with know the two of you were intimate? She acknowleges he likes to talk to women on line, but should she know the two of you were intimate?Vote B
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Being you were So very Trustworthy, which I find rare today, I think you were more 'naive' than anything, and when you saw 'Red flags,' you did your homework, and 'Smartened up.' I don't refer to you as being 'stupid,' but just this loyal, trusting woman who believed And Believed In someone she loved.
Don't be too hard on yourself. Lick your wounds, take some time for yourself to do some soul searching, and------Consider This one of life's little lessons that has taught you to be more on guard in the future, and not to wear your heart on your sleeve for someone to take terrible advantage of.
I am seeing a stronger woman here for everything you have endured, and I can feel you will be fine. Do Take this time for You now. You are what counts the most.