Girl breaks up with guy.
Guys like whatever, ain't got no time for this.
Break up because of communication issues, girl has serious self esteem issues and hasn't really let guy in for 2.5 years.
Girl starts seeing someone else round a month.
She asks guy out to lunch round 1.5 months. 3 hour lunch, she wants to talk about what happened, etc. She pays.
She doesn't leave guy alone. Calling multiple times a week for a few minutes. Always has reason. Question or just to say hi.
Round 3 months in, guy had invited girl to coffee. Coffee is fine, about to leave she brings up something that triggers guy to tell girl she's been a really horrible person to guy. She says she knows... Her insecurities doomed the relationship and nothing guy did made any difference.
Next day she calls to say thanks for meeting. Calls a couple days after to vent about something. Calls a couple days after asking if she can get anything for guys dog. Later that night sends long email...
Email says if guy doesn't want girl to talk to him, she understands and will leave guy alone. Says guy is a really great guy, now that she's had some time to separate the false things in her head from reality (she was always assuming things, and did so wrong 90% of time wrong. Nothing guy could do though to change assumptions). She tries to make a couple funnies. Low self esteem stuff throughout (ie: " I understand it wasn't meant to happen that way." or I have no idea what life has in store for me, for you, for us if it ever exists again.")
Girls still seeing someone, doesn't talk about it.
Guy texts he'll call her in a couple days. Girl texts. Texts again trying to get a convo. Guy ignores.
That couple days later girl calls guy before guy calls girl.
I love the girl, but I'm tired. Can't be direct with her, she curls back in a shell. I'm neutral. Plenty of pretty girls in the world.
Seeking opinions more than advice.
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Immature girls are wishy washy. So are immature men. People are wishy washy when they don't know what they want. I was like that when I was 19 until I realized it was mean being like that and I thought long and hard wondering why I was like that and realized it was because I didn't really like the guy I just like the attention.
She sounds like too much to handle. Either you like someone and you want to be with them, or you don't.
People who "don't know" are just lying to themselves. They do know but just don't want to admit it. Or they can't deal with it psychologically. They convince themselves they like you, but they don't, they're getting something out of it and it's a constant battle. You can help her by cutting her off and never speaking to her again. If you feel like being nice you can be straight up and tell her why, maybe that'll help her figure her shit out. Goodluck.0