I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years, 2 months ago because I was feeling very depressed and stressed out with my job, I didn't want to drag him into my drama and ask for a break so I could have some space and time to think about my career. For 2 months he begged for me back, saying he was ready to start his life with me and he didn't want to be with anyone else, he even went to my parents and asked then what he could do to win me back... I kept telling him that I still loved him but I need time alone. After six weeks and talking with family members and a therapist, I message him say I would like to give us another try. He's response shocked me as he said I can't right now. I later found out that he was 'talking' to a new girl... how could he go for loving me so much to blowing me off for some girl he just met? After a week had past and I apologies for putting him through so much pain he kept telling me 'I can't right now' ... Although when I text him he was always available to help me out whenever I needed it, until I suddenly got a text yesterday saying leave me alone and I haven't heard from him since, which I so confusing to be as he told me two days before that he was still in love with me but couldn't be with me right now... Just to add to it he never used to post anything on Facebook and now he keeps posting status about this new girl... I don't know if he's just happy or trying to rub it in my face... I really want to know what to do, obviously this girl was a rebound to void the pain he was feeling but do you think he's really over us? Should I wait for him or move on? Help!!
Most Helpful Guy
How could he blow you off for a new girl?
Because you blew him off first?
Honestly, the last thing I want is a mate who feels like I am enough of a drag to her, for her to want to be away from me when she is stressed out/doesn't want to put me through drama. What makes you think he wouldn't want to support you when you are stressing out? When you are going through it? You essentially, emotionally, slapped him in the face. Good job.
Learn to open up and let someone you say you love, in to your heart. Being in a relationship is about being dependent- not INdependent. When you feel like you need to be alone, you are telling him, that he is not good enough for you.
Well, he got your hint. Your only hope is the fact that any girl he is seeking is indeed a rebound, and he doesn't have the history with her that he has with you.
IF he decides to take you back, you would do well to control that self- centered pride. It is about being vulnerable, not all clammed up and inside of yourself.2
Most Helpful Girl
hmm, I think you should be patient and just focus on your life. The constant rejection probably got to him and now, he's loving the attention from someone new. Rejection is a tricky thing, we forget that others are human too and can walk away just like us when hurt repeatedly. Anyways, don't harass him and let him be... when the rose coloured glasses are off or the bloom of a new romance has wither away then maybe he might come back. No guarantees because he could also just fall in love with this girl as well. Don't put a hold on your life.. and btw, maybe u didn't love him enough since you let him go and repeatedly rejected him afterwrds. Are you sure you want him out of love and not just out of comfort and maybe ego?0