I'm so sad and hurt breaking up with my fiance of 4years he doesn't seem to want to change, and basically we don't love each other anymore to even try... it hurts me deeply and I don't known if he even cares?
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as bubblebrain said - it depends on a lot of things.
But really, it'll probably take a decent amount of time - and there is nothing wrong w/ that.
Also, keep in mind, there are different types of "getting over". I'm over my ex-gf who i was together w/ for 4 years. We TRULY broke off our contact last holiday season. But by this kind of "getting over" I mean I'm looking elsewhere, no longer yearn for her, am ok w/ my and her future being w/ someone else, etc, but I still think of her. Still think of the great moments we shared, as well as the bad ones and how I can learn from it.
So it's not like she's completely out my mind - she NEVER will be. But I'm ok w/ that. I'm over the "attachment" I guess is the better way to put it. And that's what's important. As long as you don't let the attachment hinder you and your own progress to finding someone else, then you'll be fine.1