Most Helpful Guy
Well it depends on a few factors. Did he end it or did you or was it mutual? Most people have a rule to never try to change a person unless it's totally something that HAS to change (like really bad habits and such.) If you truly don't still love him in your heart it shouldn't take to long to get over it and start fresh and new, but if you do still love him it can take a very long time if you cannot let the feelings go. He might be over you if he no longer loves you deep down inside too. I wouldn't worry about how he is feeling too much. Focus on you and YOU first in this situation. Trust me he is doing just that right now as well. Good luck and hope this helps you! :D
Most Helpful Girl
Men deal with feelings in different ways, they don't show as much as girls do.4years is a long time maybe he still cares but not as much as he used to. It takes time and if you didn't love each anymore well I guess it won't be difficult to let it go. Sometimes we stay in the past thinking what if. In time the pain will go away.