What is he doing here? We've been dating for a few years btw.
Is he trying to get me to leave like I'm the bad person or something?
He tells me how much he loves me and lately he's been telling me how pretty I am. Yet he gets so moody. Example being we had plans yesterday (Wednesday) after work and he just read my msg's all day (iPhones have read scripts) and when I was where he said he'd pick me up, he never came. I got a call about an hour later of him saying he had a bad day, got in a fight with his dad. But he is 24! He's so immature to me at this point.
Then after when I told him stop with the excuses, he kept giving them, not apologizing once, just tryin to justify his actions. He kept trying to pick fights with me, but I told him id call him when I get home as I don't want to speak about our relationship in public.
He kept being really negative saying I'm messing things up and treating him like I don't care. Then he wouldn't pick up my calls all night and read my msg's at 4 in the morning.
I don't get it, maybe someone could enlighten me, I have my suspicions he just wants me for sex, is possessive and possibly mentally ill
by the way he has a drug problem. Mostly weed (which I don't mind so much cos come on..) and coke/prescription drugs.
I'm angry at him he started doing drugs again because that was his excuse for cheating on me a couple months ago.
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For one, probably not using you for sex. That sounds like it's in your head to me.
Two, yes he may have some issues. I can labeled as having Borderline personality disorder, I have anxiety issues up the whazoo, and at times show symptoms of schizo. So I can too go from moods of love to moods of complete isolation from said person that I love. Some people handle their feelings really badly, I honestly think I handle my own overall fairly well. His drug issues don't help him when looking at mental issues, because they have a common tie, for example I drink a lot.
Feelings of extreme hot to extreme cold can be a sign of BPD (borderline personality disorder). It's an intense fear of abandonment, although that isn't all of it, that's a lot of it. It can be clear you care, but in his head he can find reasons why you don't. You said he had a fight was his dad. Shitty childhood can be a possible cause of BPD (which was a large contributor to mine I believe). People with BPD are also likely cheat, so that's not surprising.
If he has this issue, he himself has to recognize and aim to seek help. There is little you can do aside from making sure he does that.2