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So many problems. 1. Your still living with him. Message unclear. 2. Your trying to be friends but cuddling with him. Message unclear 3. Your expecting him to just accept that your 4 year relationship is just over all of a sudden and be cool. As clear as you think you've been message unclear. 4. Your reasons aren't as sound as what you may think. To someone who smokes weed often their weed habit is not a problem. The problem is the government's ban on a safe substance. And many think that others will immediately understand this. It may not have anything to do with the legality of it but I promise that's where he's taking it. Also there are no types of guys. This is the real world not the type castes Hollywood scene. Your going to get a mixture with every guy you meet and every guy you meet will have a couple of those traits that'll make you utter the same sentence. Also no you most likely have not matured more than him. Most likely you've just matured in different areas. It's better to just say that your thoughts about the world has change and not place your thinking on a higher more adult plain. Also growing into two different people is going to happen in every relationship always commitment is about meeting and learning how to love that new old person over and over again. Give him more clear reasoning even if it sounds cruel 1. You don't want to be in a relationship with him anymore 2. You can do whatever you want and this is what you want. Anything beyond that is giving him hope that he can change and fix this. Also lastly I have to address this asking to be friends afterwards. No don't do that. You let him decide if he wants to be friends. You leave him you put that friendship card on the table and you leave it. You don't encourage him to pick it up. Why? Because it's not about you anymore you've made your decision. You're doing what you want too. Give him some autonomy. Don't make him feel guilty about walking away cold turkey if that's what he wants to do.