My best friend (boyfriend) was pursing me for 5-6 months and we were officially together for one month. He broke up with me because he can't make time to be with me, he feels like he can't lead me in a christian relationship right now and he wants to focus on God... he says he still likes me a lot and wants to be with me but he needs to grow up...
why would he cry as he was breaking up with me? he told me when he is ready, he wants to be with me... but I don't know if I believe him...
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well some people dont realize that you dont have to be perfect to be in a relationship. hell always be growing and stuff. its ok. he can grow up and be in a relationship at the same time, becuase he will always be growing up, always growing.
and if he's found someone like you thats worth chasing for 5 months he likes he shouldn't give it up so quickly.
he needs to learn to work it out.
and yeah he's tempted to (lets be honest) go inside. the temptation is always there. Jesus was tempted. we will always be tempted no matter how close to God we get (I go to bible school, been a christian long time btw).
he needs to involve you in it as well. and both of you have to draw those boundaries in agreement.
but also, he seems to know his limits and he doesn't want to push it farther than he can handle. and it seems he doesn't want to make a mistake. and he doesn't want to make you the reason he abstains from sex, but make God his reason.
also, I think he knows if he figures it out with you there then he'll develop a more serious attachment.0