As part of my healing and moving on process I've been thinking about where I screwed up and what I could have done different.
When she started to pull away I straight up asked her "Are you ok?, anything we need to talk about? Everything ok?"
I listened to her and I took it all in but she continued to pull away. Two weeks later I get a explanation:
I've been hurt in the past and I have trust issues. If it's going good I pull back, cut contact then try to talk to them a couple weeks later but by that point I've hurt them so much they want nothing to do with me.
Okie dokie, we can work through this. Just know that I love you and I'm here for you.
She pulls farther and farther away, I feel like I'm giving her the space she needs. We see each other after two weeks, end up in a fight and break up.
Maybe I'm wrong but if your a couple and your trying to work it out don't at least have to talk? I mean how can things get fixed if you don't talk about it?
I wrote her a letter but I'm not sending it because it feels too needy still. When she asked for space I should have cut all contact though. Right after we broke up I left, she changed her profile pic of us, changed her status to single and made a post about being single and loving it. I unfriended her so I wouldn't have to see that and get hurt more
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I'm sorry about the break up :( It sucks... I know. But at least you know where you stand now. Your last paragraph is a perfect motivation for you to realize she's over it and now you should get over it too. You know, it's sometimes good to think back about your actions but it's also worth noting that it's pointless to think you are the only who messed up or did wrong. By the sound of it she is the one who pretty much gave up on the relationship. She's the one who didn't really communicate and didn't seem to have a interest in trying either. In fact, I find it difficult to take her seriously and she sounds quite selfish. I doubt you screwed up as much as you think you did. She has some serious issues if she uses her "trust issues" as a excuse to hurt her boyfriend the way she hurt you... that's so mean. I don't know what type of person gets into a relationship in the first place knowing they have such severe trust issues. A shitty past is NO excuse to ever treat someone horribly. She should have known better. Not you.
Please realize you can do tons better than this girl. You don't deserve someone who can't give you their best.1