My ex boyfriend wants to be a firefighter. We're both 20 and 21. Good kids overall. I knew that he wanted to be a firefighter and all and that he wasn't going to be a firefighter until 5-6 years from now. Everything was going fine in our relationship. To be honest i didn't think we were going to break up. If anything i thought we were going to break up because EMTs hardly get to see their girlfriends.
(He has to be an EMT then paramedic then firefighter.) Well in the beginning of the year he broke up with me saying that he didn't wanna be in a relationship until 5 years from now when he becomes one and there's no talking him out of it, I've tried my hardest to talk him out of it. No dates or anything. That's the story he's telling everyone including his mom. I knew what i was getting myself into with his career and everything but now he says he wants to be single for 5 years.
I was his first real girlfriend. We only lasted a year. And he had little high school relationships that didn't mean anything to him. I was the only girl he had feelings for.
Would you date someone that, lets say, years into the future would barely have any dating experience?
I would thing that the smart thing to do would be to keep someone that knows what your career will be like in the future so then 5 years from now when you have a stressful job like that, you would know that your significant other has your back. Right? :(
Most Helpful Guy
Yea I think a lot of people would date someone like that and not really care, some would see it as a bonus. That being said, him blowing you off to be single for 5 years is just a bad decision. I hope you try to talk him out of it more and he folds, but if you can't I'd just move on and let him make the mistake -- blowing 5 years of his life that he could've spent with a girl he loves.1
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Most Helpful Girl
I would date someone like that.
However, he doesn't want to be tied down. That means that you be single. I'm sorry. It'd be mean of him to keep a girl around when he doesn't want to be in a relationship, ya know?0