to explain on again off again girlfriend left me a couple weeks ago to start dating another guy. I haven't really heard much from her since and there relationship seems much more serious than I first though and I don't get feeling she is coming back anytime soon. so I feel a bit lost and not sure how to deal with the whole thing.
on some level I feel relieved I can just be single and not have a complicated relationship hanging over me and having other people wonder whats going on between us. now its very clear to everyone she is seeing another guy and were not together.
but the whole thing hurt me and felt unnecessary , as I though I had made a lot of improvements in my life that should of made me more datable. I have been working full time and got a new car and was trying to improve things with her but she choose to simply walk away and date this other guy over trying to fix things with me. maybe he does have things going for him that I don't but deep down I can't see him being in love with her on the same level I was.
Most Helpful Girl
This may be hard to hear but to be honest... be thankful! I don't think it's fair of her to do the off and on again thing with you, you probably did love her more than she loved you which is never fun. I know that you've been hurt because she just jumped to another guy, but at least she's not in your life anymore. Sometimes it helps to think about the pros and cons, realize that she came into your life for a reason to teach you things you needed to learn and vice versa, you are going to meet someone that's going to want the long time relationship and someone that won't let you down and jump with the relationship mood bug. My advice, keep busy and stay active, engage in an activity that you like be it music, tennis etc, it'll give you a chance to have a good time as well as meet other people! She walked away from someone who loved and cared about her and will get stuck with a sh*tty guy, keep your head up and cry etc but then, when you're done, let it rest.0
Most Helpful Guy
Time will heal. As soon as you can start thinking about going for other girls (and then doing so, obviously), I find that helps. Try to keep busy to get your mind off it.0