My girlfriend left me for the third time. I mean, big production- lived together with her and two kids (11 and 9). I was good to them and we were very close. GF and I had great sexual chemistry and have been together since 2008 with a year and a half apart when she came back and moved in. Now she moved out again after being together for a year and 8 months. She said that her feelings have been " squashed" and she was leaving. Wouldn't go to counseling to try and work it out because she said she had wanted me to for months. Didn't want to just go with my timeline. She just basically turned off her switch and became distant and cold. I had a ring but never asked her to marry me and she brought that up. But one thing she kept saying was that the way she loved me was never enough for me. Anyway, I am crushed but have been no contact for almost two weeks. My daughter did tell me she cried and had to leave when she was packing her stuff. I feel like this no contact way is the only way I will be able to heal and eventually move on. But God, do I miss her and love her.
Is going "No Contact" the best way to get over being dumped by your girlfriend?
What Girls Said 1
She left you 3times, sounds like she needs to get a grip on life! Its not fair to you or to her kids that she keeps dragging you all threw this! I've been married and divorced and it ruins most people, but you have to be the grown up about it all, no contact seems like the way to go but its not always the best option. She sounds like she has some self-esteem issues she needs to work on. Maybe your not perfect either, maybe you didn't show her how much she ment to you, maybe she didn't do that either. Its good you can be there for the kids, specially if they dont have a normal father figure in their life, but what happens when mom moves on to the next guy?1
What Guys Said 1
If those kids weren't there, no contact would be best. Now there's a responsibility towards them. Meet with your ex and discuss all of it calmly, no kids present. Are you the kid's dad or their ex-stepdad?0
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