I was with this girl for a little over 2 years and we had an awesome relationship where we would talk about marriage and kids etc. We were great together and always showing each other love and affection, it was like drowning in love. I would do everything for because she needed guidance due to family issues and education issues. I will admit a year in to the relationship I started to feel for another girl and because I value honesty and communication I told my girlfriend. And of course she was hurt and sad, but I told her I love her and I realize that now. After that I was making amends and just focusing on her. Everything was great and we didn't really get in to arguments. In order to fix her education issue I told her to go live with her brother in North CArolina to focus on school and finally get your GED. She went and while she was in North Carolina she met her friend she knew that was stationed in North CArolina. Long story short.
She kept saying she loved and I can't wait to come back to start our lives and stuff. And then one day out of no where she broke up with me. claims she needed to find herself outside of us and how she needed to focus. We still talked as if we were still together and then she stopped talking to me and then I went a little crazy saying how you with this guy, her friend, and she told me She was dating him and she slept with him. she started crying and how it was a mistake and she doesn't know what she wants. She decides to come back to new York and I tried to talk to her. so we hung out and I was trying to get her back, but then she just became cold out nowhere and is now with this guy. Its like everything I did, Everything we said , and everything she did meant nothing. Need a perspective on this.
And she kept saying how im going to be something in life and how he is going to be nothing and I don't know what I want and she says she is a different person and im not the girl you fell in love with. And she was depressed in NC.
Most Helpful Girl
I think that she did that because you did it the first time. Now, her tears might mean something, but I believe that you two of you might have grown apart since she moved to NC. Do you love her that much to allow her to find another guy, sleep with him, then come back crying, saying that it was a mistake?0
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Most Helpful Guy
Similar situation happened to me. You will go crazy if you try to analyze each aspect of the relationship and the psychology behind the girls thinking. My opinion, avoid the sob story and look at her actions. SHe slept with this dude and is dating him. That is what she wants those were her actions. She seems selfish, insecure, and immature but that is the choice she made.0