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You're obviously a smart dude. You're smart enough to realize that race matters to some degree, in the sense that we were brought up different... I guess you could say it's more has to do more with culture than race but that's all semantics; don't let people mind-game you like that. You're on the right track.
I'm Hispanic. Personally dude, I think she may be right for you too but she doesn't know it. I think women are kind of retarded sometimes, not all of them of course. But a lot of them have fantasies that are super idealistic/unrealistic about what to expect from a man. Unfortunately she's one of those delusional ones.
First of all what's the lesson? Don't date at work. Period. Secondly, how do you get over it? You just have to suck it up man. Move forward. It's tough, I know, but unless you're willing to find a different job there's nothing you can really do about it; she will always be there and may even start dating other coworkers with you standing right there. So you need to steel yourself up. Show some Resolve and Perseverance but there's nothing wrong with Avoidance as well. If you need to leave the job then go ahead, that's not cowardly at all. Obviously you had a real attachment to her and were severely hurt by her words.
That's about all I have to say about that.