I recently broke up with my ex girlfriend, Her 34 Me 36, we were together for 18 months but had known each other for 18 years. She had been married but divorced and really struggled with the 'loss of family' and 'not being married' We had a great first 6 months, both so happy and had fallen in love. It was effortless, we both just enjoyed being together. Her ex husband was still on the scene because they had 2 children and he would collect them 3 times a week. He was always thoughtless and I think loved to annoy her, which of course I would hear about and support her with. After 6 months she just started pushing me away, saying she struggled with not being married and often appologised but then did it again, it led to regular deep conversations and we would come out of them fine, over time she started saying she didn't want to see me as much, wanted some time for her and although she was always a very private person and hated anyone knowing about her life she stopped wanting to hold my hand etc bit by bit she took away all the things that made us so special and over the last 3 months just kept saying she needed to find herself and couldnt be in a relationship with anyone, asked for friendship and said I was her best friend, I said I needed some time and space to let my feelings subside, she didn't want this and demanded her terms, I had to walk away, after a few days she came back and said she wanted to try, make it work but it lasted a few days and she was back to pushing away again so the cycle repeated, again she came back then 3 days later she left me, 2 weeks later deleted me of Facebook and then 2 weeks later changed her status on Facebook to in a relationship. We both work at the same place but different hours and she brought her new man in the next day... I wasn't there but how much does she want to hurt me? She has never put anything personal on FB and this is just not her... its made everything she ever said a lie
Help me - Im struggling to understand - Loved then Let go of and everything became a lie?
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Wow I really did not see that coming. I was going to say that she just might need time, if she was trying to make it work when you said you needed space then it must mean she likes you and just wanted to sort herself out. But now it seems like she was forcing herself to like you.
I feel like she might have been dating the two of you at the same time and her saying that she needs time alone really translated to: "I need to think about who I want." She might not have made her relationship status visible to hurt you, you shouldn't jump to that conclusion.
Does she have her ex husband on Facebook as well? She could have been rubbing it in his face, rather than yours. Women like showing off, in some way or another, and this could just be her way of showing everyone that she has something. Just my theory, but don't take her actions so personally I know its hard not to. It takes a lot of courage to come clean and be honest with someone, especially when its negative news. Maybe she didn't know how to tell you the truth.0
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