I don't know what to do anymore. In 13 days it'll be a year since my ex and I broke up (together 3 years) I've tried everything to get over him (he's over me; he's with someone new) I grieved (still grieving occasionally), I've vented, I've dwelled then I went to therapy, started new hobbies, hung out with new and old friends, gone on dates, threw myself into work, spent more time with family, journaled, exercised more, read break up books, sought out advice, got on meds, started going back to school, the list goes on...
Anyone I talk to (close family and friends) tell me I should be moved on by now and to just get over it. My head says "he's over you, move on," but I know my heart still loves this man :(
How do I get over this person and move on with my life?
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Don't listen to idiots who say you can't or offer ridiculous advice.
Here is the thing, nothing is working because you won't let it work. Here is what you need to do and do it in the exact order-
Sit down and make a list of 4 places you always wanted to visit, different state/country whatever. Map out how much it will cost to go and how to get there, plan to spend at least a week in each place. Now, write it down on the wall in your bedroom with a big sharpie and start saving your money and working double/triple shifts to get the money as fast as you can. Sleep 6hrs a night and work all other hours, drop all hobbies and get to the goal.
Once you have the money, book your vacation to visit all 4 places, one a week and give your month notice to your landlord, 2 weeks later, put in your 2 weeks notice at work and book your trip 13 days from that day. Everyday buy some new clothing for your vacation and pack any clothing that reminds of your ex in a travel bag. The last day of work, when you get home, clean your apartment or room to give it over. If you are living with your parents even better, clean it up and tidy it up, go buy and put brand new sheets and linens and pack ALL your stuff and leave it in a corner.
Each day from today write a letter to your ex-bf, put it in a envelope and mail it to yourself. Yes actually stamp it and drop it in the mailbox. STICK to the routine, write one EVERY SINGLE DAY! The day of your flight, take all the letters and burn them all together and throw out that travel bag of clothes, do a full house/apartment/room clean up and then go to the airport and get excited about your month long journey.
When you get back, don't go home, instead have a apartment looked up already and move straight there and found yourself a new job. The idea is to finally do something for yourself and you initiate a change. Follow it and you will thank me you did.