I'm so upset and need advice. I've been in a whirlwind romance with my boyfriend for 3 months its all gone really fast because since meeting each other we have been inseperable and together every day. We do everything together and he has even moved into my house and we have told each other we love each other and say it all the time. The relationship has been perfect we can't get enough of each other.
On Sunday we shopped and bought food to make dinner then he tells me he is going out with a friend to watch the football and will be home at 8pm and for me to cook for him then as I'd offered. Anyway he went out and came home at 4 am. I text him at 11pm to say that I hate ignorant people and that I am fuming that he wouldn't have just message me to say he wasn't coming back so I didn't go to all the effort to cook and he didn't get this till he got home as his battery had died. When he first came in hewas apologizing but as soon as he read my message his mood changed entirely. he was obviously really drunk as well. Anyway I went to a funera today and came back to find him gone. He left without a coat a phone charger or any of his things and I text him to ask if he had fallen out with me and he replied 'no' then an hour later he text me this Hannah I'm at my auntys in stoke !! I need some space cos I can't be told what to do love xx iv jus come out ov a shit relationship an can't put myself frew that again serious darlin xx il bel ya wen I come bk x'
I'mso upset I can't sleep I love him so much I tried to message him and I apologized and tried to call but he's ignoring me I love him so much I don't know what to do... Please give me advice on his actions and what to do I feel broken :(
Most Helpful Guy
Here's the thing - he's not ready for a relationship, one where he acts like an adult and considers his partners point of view before doing something like staying out all night.
When you rightly pointed out that was a shitty thing to do, he got overly defensive, tried to compare it to YOU telling him what to do and how to live his life (which it wasn't) and did a runner.
He doesn't want a serious relationship, and he figures some distance now will make things cool off between you so it won't be as serious when he returns.1
Most Helpful Girl
I think you both are lovers that are getting use to each other. And I dont think you blew up to fast I think you both did. For him to leave that quick and you to get mad at him that quick is normal early on in the relationship. It gradually fizzles and you will laugh about with your false teeth. Stop being heart broken you didn't do anything wrong, and neither is he. Let everything cool down by making yourself feel sexy, go get your nails done, or hair or something fun that you enjoy. In the mean time you can pretty the place up for when he returns and focus your efforts on making sure your happiness is not solely dependent on his presence. Next time he goes you would hardly break a sweat. Showing your life continues regardless of his, will make him pick up his slack even if it takes a century. Be patient and when your super mad pray, take a run, cook yourself dinner and settle down to a fun hobby of yours (because your a confident woman that knows her man will be home later).1