I don't get this at all. I've lost feelings for guys, but never when things were starting to get serious.
I just don't get how you can tell a girl "you mean a lot to me", "you're special", "I care about you" then break up with her a few days later and lead her on and play the fuck out of her after, promising something could happen in the future, such as possibly dating again, then all of a sudden quit talking to her, never trying to make plans (even when she asked first), and then even after she's done and ends it doesn't even care at all and hangs out with all his friends while she's crying and can't even hang out with guys without wanting him.
Yes this happened to me. I just wanna know, how can someone possibly stop caring and nice on so quickly after making tons of promises not to leave and saying so much.
Most Helpful Guy
Some guys are just liars. If he's a known player, could be that.
But I think what more often happens is that people -keep saying- all the right things even as their feelings fade. They may only feel it 80%, but they keep saying the right things and its just slightly forced but you know, they're hoping they feel 100% again. And then they feel 50% ... and they are still keeping up appearances, and its half true, they sometimes feel a lot of caring, but its not the same, but they're covering it up, and then their feelings are down to 20%, and they are saying it and then end it.
And after they end it? they're still at 20% maybe, but they cut off all contact to make a clean break.
You never really know, and I certainly can't know. But I think that's more likely. I'm sorry it hurts. Maybe its easier to get over him thinking he's a lying jerk, but maybe that doesn't fit with what you know of him. If that's true, maybe thinking (and guessing) that he was trying to hold it together hoping his feelings would strengthen till it became obvious they wouldn't0
Most Helpful Girl
Honesty i was thinking the same thing... most guys like you be in their life, you probably rocked their entire world and they leave you like you never existed. The honest truth is they got hurt.. realll bad before. They loved someone and that girl ended it just like that. So now they do that to others and maybe not as intentional as we think but just so they can be safe. I know because of this one guy, me and him got close and i knew he got hurt before so he was trying to push me away but he stopped when we got little serious but when things ended i was so broken but i knew that id never make that same mistake again and honestly i know i hurt a lot of people because of this but i know i dont ever want to go through that again.. But later my friends told me that he turned into a real jerk, his kik names and all are "dgaf about ya feelings" so i know he got madd hurt as much as i did and he's trying his best not to come down that path again. I know you aren't going to do the same thing and probably play more hard to get the next time... its a cycle. But your not vulnerable anymore and you know what it feels like to hurt. Like that song from eminem "Gained my trust, dont play games it'll be dangerous cuz if you f*ck me over, cuz if i get burnt ima show you what its like to hurt, cuz i been treated like dirt before ya..." But trust me everyone stops playing games and bs when they find the right one to settle down. Your going to know who it is, just keep your heart locked, dont let em say they had a turn with you because your hard to find and even harder to have ;)1