I have been with this guy for 3 years, he is 21 years old. Being with him was the most amazing thing that has ever happened to me.
Three weeks ago i found out he has been talking to a girl and they also went out, while he was telling me his back hurt too much to go out with me, when i found out he never accepted that he was actually with her but he said it was just friends but since i know he has a lot of family problems and that time we were going through a rough time. I told him whatever it is end it now. He said ok and he told me he would never do anything to hurt me.
Recently i found out that he hasn't stopped talking to her in fact he had her number under his friend's name. He has been cheating on me, he has been with another girl for about 2 months, they went out 2 times, he kissed her and said he loved her, i found out all about that after taking his phone. She didn't know about me. He never accepted that he cheated, but he did apologize before i took his phone from him, i kept his phone for awhile and thats how she texted him, i played along and thats how i found out all the things he has said to her. When i came back to talk to him and showed him that msg, he was just yelling at me like everything is my fault, telling me why am i after him, told me to let him go and that he doesn't need me.
I know he has a lot of family problems going on but that doesn't explain why is he behaving like this with me. I don't understand if he doesn't love me then why did he fight against his parents for me? But if he loves me then why would he cheat on me? I really love him and now I don't know what to do, the only way i can stop myself from tearing up from of others is by smoking. I really believed he loved me, maybe he did, maybe he just got tired of fighting for me idk.
All i have been asking him was why he did that. We had problems before but now everything seemed to go back to normal, until i found that out. Can someone please help me figure this out?
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Because he is a idiotic teenager, that's why. Women mature faster than men, its true, you are ahead of him, you are ready to settle down... he is NOT. He fought for you because he "thought" you are what he wanted but the truth is, he doesn't know what he wants. So he is doing what almost every other teenager does, playing the field.
What you should do is breakup and let him go, let him make his mistakes and when the time is right, he will come back to you realizing he is an idiot.1
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