My ex broke up with me after 9 months of dating due to lifestyle differences - sex was not a big thing to him, he could have taken it or left it (low libido due to anti depressants). As soon as he dumped me, he acted like nothing changed! Emailing/texting/wanting to hang out. I was confused so I asked him what was up and he said that he still loves me and thinks I am the coolest girl, and since sex isn't important to him anyway, he figured we'd just continue as we were but with no physical intimacy. I think this is so selfish and inconsiderate. I told him I wanted to sever all contact and he got upset. Thoughts?
Most Helpful Guy
So he wants his (emotional) needs met but it doesn't bother him if your needs aren't getting met. Yeah, sounds selfish to me too.
by the way not that it matters now, but there are some newer antidepressants that don't interfere with sex drive.1
Most Helpful Girl
Wow! This is like exactly what happened to me, minus the whole sex thing (I'm the one who didn't want to have sex).
I know exactly how you feel, mine acted the same way. Except he wanted us to still hold hands and kiss (Yes, while we're broken up), and when I didn't want to he'd get upset. Eventually, after two months of being "Friends" I told him that I can't do it and I need to get over us and try and move on. He got mad too.
What you're doing is right, if you're hurt still by all of this then you cannot be friends yet (or maybe never). I'm still not over my ex and I think about him at night and cry, but I know I did the right thing by avoiding all contact.1
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