6 weeks ago, my boyfriend and I split up after a small disagreement. He has a bit of a drinking problem and he has zero self esteem. I was trying to help him through it, but he said he realized he doesn't have the ability to quit drinking and that my daughter and I deserve better. Since the breakup, he has contacted me a few times and every time he has said that he regrets his decision but he knows it's what is best for me... I would take him back in a heartbeat because I love him and he knows this...
Last week, he sent me a text saying "You have a hell of a future but it's not with a lowlife like me".
I don't know how to fix this... how to make him stop feeling this way... or if he's feeding me bs to keep me from being hurt (its not working if that's the case). I would assume he just would quit talking to me if he truly didn't regret it? Granted we'll get into conversations and he'll just stop talking completely... but he always messages me a few days later...
Another ex who is trying to get me to take him back (won't ever happen) told me last night that I am "intimidating" to date because I do everything a woman is supposed to do and men these days don't know how to handle it... Not sure if that's legitimate or relevant...
Most Helpful Guy
maybe you are better off! you can't fix his drinking problem he has to deal with it in his own way when he is ready! most of the time they have to hit rock bottom and loose everything before they will figure out that they screwed up! best thing you can do for him is move on and enjoy your life with your daughter. as for your other ex there is a reason why he is gone I wouldn't be taking advise from him.1
Most Helpful Girl
He is Right in One aspect----Your daughter and You deserve better. He has admitted he has 'A bit of a drinking problem,' and as long as you Enable him, Even if it is to Continue to Hold his hand as he whines, the problem at hand won't disappear-------As long he won't Go and seek Professional help. I know all about this, my sister has been 'A bit of a drinker' since 13 years old, and the man she is married to now, pacifies her and satisfies her every whim, every wish, just so he doesn't have to deal with her 'Rough rude' Rottenness.
The Best thing you can do for him is Encourage him to go seek help, but I feel he is a poor example in front of your daughter, along with an anchor on your leg that will only weigh you down.
Yes, he knows 'You love him,' that's Why he is playing on your pity wagon right now. And if he truly cared even One iota for you and your daughter, he would go and get the help he needs.
Your 'EX' is right about that----You're too good for today's man who-------Doesn't know how to handle a girl who has so much to give, getting nothing much in return. Most likely why This one is an 'EX' that somehow didn't get 'Any more chances' to Mark his spot.
Good luck. xx1
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