We broke up five months ago and haven't talked since; however we ran into each other accidentally last week and it brought back some memories so I wrote him an email just to say some nice things. He wrote back and told me how he'd been hurting and how he still loves me and that he's damn angry that he felt as though I dumped him and exited the scene as my love for him was "conditional." It was a long email and seemed like an opportunity for him to express all his feelings and anger from the past five months, which is fine, but I don't really agree with a lot of the things he said and I think they're unfair to me.
I almost wrote back a long email too clarifying my stance and how we're on different pages about the reasons we broke up. There's actually something that was just as damaging in my perspective that he's not aware of, and I wanted to tell him since we're over anyway. I don't know if that'd be a good idea, though, since the thing is about how he was hurting me in a way he didn't know, so I don't know how he'd react if I just break the news to him now, with an email full of anger. A part of me also wonders, what's the point anyway now that we're not together anymore.
I guess I just hate knowing someone going on thinking I was at fault while as a matter of fact I wasn't. I also know he's probably relating the same feeling to his friends too so that everyone around him knows how "bad" of a person I am. It just seems unfair to me if I didn't offer a rebuttal for his points and let him realize there's something else he didn't know about.
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Sounds like the reason your relationship didn't work out is neither of you REALLY talked with each other. You can't say he's wrong to feel the way he does, because that'she how he feels (whether you like it or not). As for your own feelings & reasons, honestly, why not tell him? He opened that door.
And if he was hurting you unknowningly, he needs to know, for no other reason then for him to realize he's doing it & correct it. The relationship is over, but it doesn't mean you both can't learn from it while moving on.0