I've been talking to a guy digitally for about a year now. The fact that we were attracted to each other became an undertone knowledge that wasn't said but felt. Later on in the year he told me how he felt. I told him I felt the same way but wasn't ready partly because we lived in different states and never had met in person. He said he understood. Later on, we planned on him coming to visit me. He randomly said "I love you" and tried to cover it by saying "I mean... as a friend of course" but he had never said this before. And all of a sudden, he began to get angry over little things and me pushing him away when ever his comments would get too sexually charged. After we cleared the air, he randomly tells me "Oh yeah, I have a girlfriend". When I tried to explain why I was upset with hearing this news he said "See? You don't see me as 'just a friend'" .. This of course felt like salt in the wound. So, now he has a girlfriend. I feel awful because I still love him, feel for him and I missed my chance. But really, was it my fault for losing that chance?
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It doesn't sound like it was your fault at all.
It sounds like he liked where things were going, and let slip something he didn't mean to and then panicked. He may or may not actually have a girlfriend, but even if, or rather especially if he does, I would not try to date him or wait for that to end or anything.
I would work on moving past him. Not getting over, as he will surely always be important to you, but just moving forward without him. Would you really want someone who, while in a relationship (we're assuming it's true), messages some other girl, who he has admitted to loving, and tries to prove that she cares for him?
If he's not in a relationship, he lied to push you in to saying that you care about him.
If he is in a relationship, he used his girlfriend to make you jealous, which he would only do if he still wanted something from you, which would completely screw over the girl he's dating.
I hope that helps a bit hun~
Good luck! : )1
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