Most Helpful Girl
As a non-monogamous person who often gets trapped into monogamous relationships.
I don't believe that there is an excuse for cheating. In the era that we live in sex is available to most of us with no commitment. Thus its pretty shitty/unnecessary to cheat on someone who wants monogamy. Especially when you take into account all of the men/women who DON'T want monogamy, commitment, and/or exclusive relationships.
There are so many hot/horny/eager men and women out here waiting for sex and tomfoolery. Of all levels of attractiveness, education, ability, and wealth.
So for someone to cheat IMO, they have to be an extremely damaged, selfish, and/or just completely careless person. Cheating is a VERY big mistake to happen, at some point when the clothes of off, after the discrete location is ventured too, and the genitals engage, at what point in time are you thinking about the person you made a commitment too?
When I knew I no longer wanted to be monogamous in a relationship, I simply ended the relationship.
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Most Helpful Guy
Second chances yes, but not always. Case by case scenario here.
These are just a few of the questions I think people (or at least I) would ask themselves:
Who's is the women to you, who are you to her?
How long have the two of you been in a committed relationship for?
Who'd she/he cheat with? - You're best friend, then nope.
How many times?
Did they do extracurricular activities together or was it just sex? - This matters.
Were we coming undone before/during?
If I knew it was just once, with one guy that I don't know, and we were in love, then yes I would give it one more shot. People make mistakes everyday. It is only human to do so. You never know what someone is capable of until they're faced with it. So, maybe some people are never faced with the opportunity to cheat, maybe others are and succumb to the temptation only once. And yet further still, maybe others not only succumb, but rather look for the temptation. I think there are varying degrees of the infamous "cheater."