So, she dumped me after 10 months of dating because she said she never loved me. I tried to get her back at the time and she said no.
Because we are in somewhat the same circles, she said we could remain friends. I rejected this proposal at first as I do not really believe that one can truly be friends after dating and being intimate.
Anyway, a few months of NC went by until I saw her again at at a gathering with mutual friends. The encounter was brief and awkward, but amicable enough. I thought that perhaps there was a chance of reconciliation. However, while my ex was friendly enough, she never contacted me (I did not think it appropriate to reach out to her since I had previously made my feelings clear to her months earlier and she told me to cease communication at the time). Further, a dude was hitting on her in my presence and it seemed like she was enjoying the attention, regardless of how it would make me feel. I maintained the high road and was always courteous to her, but inside I was both seething and disappointed. Rather than get angry, I went out and socialized and dated other women. Apparently, this got back to my ex because t he next time I saw her and approached her to say hello and ask about her family, she was very cold and rude to me.
Throughout all this, I have maintained my civility and always given her a quick smile and hello when I run into her.
But, now I am starting to feel silly about how gracious I feel I am being. I want to simply ignore her when I see her. After all, she dumped me, tells me she wants to remain friends, but obviously doesn't mean it, she can flirt with other guys in my presence, but gets upset if I date other girls even though, once again, she dumped me!
I want to be a mature, civil person about this whole mess. But, she hurt me and I'd rather ignore her.
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Ignoring your ex does not mean you are bitter or resentful my ex claims that because he is mad that I want nothing to do with him its been 2 years and he still is trying to get me back when I finally responded and told him to leave me alone he claims that he can't stop thinking about me and he just wanted to invite me to his wedding? So you're getting married and can't stop thinking about me that's bullshit he was trying to figure out if he wanted to marry this girl based on if he I would take him back. Lmao I told him I forgave him a long time ago for myself not for you to pop in and out of my life I am not bitter I don't believe in being friends with exes especially an ex that constantly begs me to take him back or wants sex. Another reason is if I was in his current fiance's shoes I would not like my soon to be husband to be begging another bitch for friendship and inviting her to our wedding. Moving on is mature, feeling like you need to hold on is immature.0