Most Helpful Girl
Showing any attention toward that person means they're not over them. If it's all negative, to me that's the same thing.
Most Helpful Guy
I can relate, and looking back at some of my own experiences. I can safely say I know now that when thinking about relationships, if I came to the conclusion that nothing is better than what I had, then the relationship is without a doubt over. Similarly I knew I was over my ex when I stopped caring at all how she was doing.