I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years. We haven't had sex in over a year and the last time we really made out was also over a year. The reason it stopped in the first place was because we had a fight one morning where I was just messing around (flirting/layaing on him) and he got mad and said "if we aren't having sex get off me". Needless to say, hearing that really hurt and made me feel like this guy I trusted completely just wanted sex from me. Ever since then things just went down hill. I just stopped wanted to have sex or anything super intimate with him. It was starting to get a little better but breaks from college (and him since I got to an out of state college) made it hard, and we would have to restart working up back to that intimate stage because it was always awkward to come back after 3 months of just talking or not having him around. There were a few times that we tried but I wasn't aroused enough and it hurt so bad I had to make him stop.
So fast forward to now, where we barely talked over the summer because of multiple reasons (he was with friends and couldn't talk/I was with friends/he was working/I was working). And I felt like whatever good thing we had starting out had died, and it wasn't right for us to keep being labeled as girlfriend boyfriend, and he was frustrated and I was frustrated.
So I broke up with him last night while we sitting outside after we took a short walk. I asked him what happened to us. And how I felt our relationship wasn't a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship anymore. That what I first felt for him had died. He just stared out, and walked away. I wanted to be clear so I said "are we broken up?" and he said "if that's what you want" and I said "yes" and he starred at me like he hated me and walked away.
I just need to know that I did the right thing for both of us. And that I didn't give up something amazing, that could have been fixed. How do you get over losing your best friend forever?
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Yeah, you did the right thing now. I mean, you were very unhappy in this relationship - if you can call it that. Did he ever apologize or explain why he said that you? Something like that always hurts like a bitch, but if you're in a good relationship where you can talk to each other, it can be fixed. He might've just been in a really foul mood, but I suppose you didn't really talk about it afterwards?0