my boyfriend broke up with me months ago. we got in a huge fight and he was the one who decided to end it. I was really torn up about it.. and I still am, but that doesn't mean I'm going to sit around moping about it feeling sorry for myself. I hooked up with a friend of mine one night (we had sex). my ex found out, called me saying he wanted to get back together but "couldn't ever do that to himself" after knowing that I had been with someone else.
does this make any sense to you at all? to me it just sounds extremely jealous, controlling, possessive, insecure, and down right unfair. After we broke up we didn't speak for over 2 months. he told me we were done and that he was breaking up with me. it was a pretty clear break up. so it's not like I cheated on him or anything like that. I would never do that.
I wasn't even interested in the guy I hooked up with, he is a friend of mine and it just kind of happened. there are no romantic feelings there or even the potential for us to become involved with each other romantically or sexually ever again. it was a one time thing.
so why is my ex acting this way? it just seems crazy to me.
thanks for any advice.
Most Helpful Guy
I don't know why he broke up with you and this situation reminds me of a situation between me and my girl or should I say my ex. She dumped me told me she couldn't be with me and everything and she was really mean and hurt me. I tried everything to get her to talk to me but she ignored me then after two months I just gave up. I still loved her but I somehow started to have fun and even went on a few dates. Once I even meat her and her ex on a date with a really nice girl and it was so apparent that she wasn't happy. Anyway she kept seeing photos on fb of me at parties or something and on a lot of them I was hanging out with a girl that were really good friends years ago lost touch and just recently got back in touch and it was fun. Of course she thought there was something going on and got jealous. A few weeks later she came back and told me she couldn't be without me and that she wanted to give us another try. After a week she found excuses most of all attributed to me to dump me again and she did very badly and she hurt me a lot again even more than the first time. I've got no idea why she got scared again or why she's torn between me and the rest of her life but she got jealous again a month after when she saw pictures of me and a bunch of girls hanging out and deleted me of fb. I know she loved me but I also know she's got problems and her behavior tells me that her heart is telling her she wants to be with me but her head is giving her a bunch of bs reason why not to because she's afraid. When she gets jealous enough and can't deal with it anymore she comes back or at least has problems and wants to come back.
I think it's the same with your boyfriend. He's got some conflicts within him that are making him act all weird and when he heard you hooked up with someone else his emotions burst out.
I'd say if you have feelings for this guy give him some time and try getting back together.
Good luck to you both. :)1
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Most Helpful Girl
I always find that many times after a break up, when there is No make up, that even though Apart, the Other Ex Partner is still----------Jealous, controlling, possessive, insecure, and downright Unfair. You're right, sweetie. Except One important point you left out, may I intrude here? TERRITORIAL. Just like some tom cat with his claws Extended. Man, that takes balls, doesn't it?
You have hit the nail on the head with this ol alley cat. And by you going out 'hunting,' let's say, not 'Going to sit around moping about it feeling sorry for yourself,' it caused a pet peeve with him, and even got his egotistical Goat----- knowing that I had been with someone else. Suck it up, buddy, I say.
I know from experience that some guys get 'crazy' after a split. And with this immature mentality, they still have it in their thick heads that they have some sort of Rights yet, that they still call the shots, whether or not to take us back and 'forgive' us if we happen to have moved on, grinding with another, and even Expect us to be home, crying and trying to---------Forget them, as we wonder who they are prowling around with.
No matter if it would be a one nite stand or a relationship made in heaven, don't let this furry fellow get your fur in a tither, holding any carrot over your nose. You are your own boss now, your own----Pussycat.
I don't see you weeping and worrying over his hissy fit, running to him like it bothers you.
Good luck, good work. xx1