I just broke it off with my ex of 4 months about a few days ago. However, I have class with him, and we have very close mutual friends and just avoiding him makes things awkward and uncomfortable and not in the way that it's supposed to.
The least possible contact I can make is averting eye contact, leaving the room/conversation, and not saying a word when we walk past each other. It isolates me from our mutual friends and makes me feel constricted.
I realize the break up is fresh and feelings are still kind of uncomfortable and strange, but the social awkwardness won't mend my feelings or make things easier.. It's making things harder, because I HAVE to have contact with him, just I don't know how to go about it. The only way I can persist in the NC rule is to blatantly ignore him like a child ignoring a friend during a petty fight, and that just sends off the wrong signals, because I'm not bitter about it and I still want to reach out to him eventually to communicate.
I also haven't gotten closure and I plan on talking to him about in in a week or so to ask where it went wrong, because it happened so suddenly.
Should I just keep up the NC rule and see what happens in the next month, then try to reach out to him again? The break up wasn't nasty, just confusing, which is the best way to explain it, because in the end we weren't on the same page and never got a chance to converse about it and I feel like there are still loose ends.
Most Helpful Guy
It sounds like you are egotistically obsessed with some false worth you see in yourself, and with the idea of power and control. Be prepared for this guy to not give a rat's ass about you, making the situation far more uncomfortable for you than for him.0
Most Helpful Girl
Why didn't you just talk to him about the issues you were having before just breaking up with him? You broke up with him prematurely. Now he may not even see a reason to discuss anything since you've already ended it. And the No Contact rule doesn't even apply in this situation. You implement No Contact AFTER you've discussed what it is you want them to change. Then if they don't they know there will be consequences, thus you having no contact. You can't just go no contact without him knowing why! That's just playing head games with him (which isn't cool)! Im no psychological expert but if I were you (and you still happen to care about this guy) go talk to him and tell him whats got you so bothered (if you haven't already). If he doesn't change then go no contact with him.0