I'll be the first to admit it, I'm hung up on this woman. Dated on and off for almost 2 years. Found out she was cheating and cut it off. She would text occasionally and I would give short answers, then everything stopped. Recently she texted some very random thoughts about things we enjoyed, but wouldn't identify herself (new number, internet is wonderful for looking that up). Calls me 2 days later and we have a very cursory 15 min conversation. The next day she asks to meet for a drink. I eventually agree and it was really another cursory conversation. We did kiss when we left. She texts me later saying whatever happens happens but she needed that kiss. And that she wanted to see me and be with me (I took that to mean hang out). Now what am I suppose to do? I don't need to get played again. I'm in the huge head vs heart struggle.
Most Helpful Girl
She's needing attention she knows you'll give her. You are good for her ego and she's likely using you to fill in whenever she needs a boost. She may or may not even realize she's doing this.2
Most Helpful Guy
I wouldn't look too far into it. I would see if she can prove herself to be different from the last run around you had with her. Cheating usually with stem from a person's lack of communication. So, see if she can express herself clearly and in a healthy manner. The rest is really all on her. When I get burned and they come back, they have to do all the work to prove that they have learned from their mistakes. This is just my outlook on these things when they get difficult. I hope this works out for you.0