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Okay. so let me tell you something you won't like. Based on what you said she sounds like an uber B**. To answer your questions "what was I to her?" You were her emotionaly invested puppy dog with apposable thumbs. She's a girl that likes attention, and when she's not flirting around she's making sure she's got a back-up plan to fluff up her ego when she's at home and there aren't any readliy cute guys. It also gives her status to have a boyfriend in certain situations. She may have grown to care about you-- again as one cares for their puppy that loves them unconditionally. But she was never IN love with you. She wouldn't come back to you while in a forgein country because- 1. she's in a forgien country where she can be loose and hook up with guys with cute accents (plus its thrilling) and 2. didn't come back afterwards because she felt like she had gained confidence and no longer needed a fluffer.
I personally think her later actions are just a weird way of keeping you on her leash. It could be giving her a drama thrill or she could be just not be over the fights that you guys had and is holding a grudge. As to the thing about the guy who like her that she wouldn't stop talking to. If he was a good friend most girls wouldn't drop the guy, but its also possible he was her back-up plan if things went south with you. And secondly, for the while she was drunk statement about her friend not hooking up with you. It could be that she A- doesn't want you to be happy because of said grudge or B- is having a power stuggle in her clique to hold up that she's leader of the pack and stopping people from hooking up with you is how she keeps power. This is all a very negative view- but if you think deep down inside she's a nice person-- your question wouldn't have been so negative either. So going by how negative your question places her-- this is the response I've chosen to give. Also-- never date a girl on the rebound- they tend to be users.