My ex and I got together a month after she ended a long term relationship. At first she spoke about her ex a lot but that went away after I brought it up to her and she said it was just crazy to her how ours was better than her last. I always noticed she flirted with other guys a good amount and when I brought it up she said she didn't even notice but she kept on talking to guys who just wanted to get into her pants literally. We fought a bit about trust. Our relationship boomed around 4 months in we were obsessed with each other. Then another guy came up who professed his love for her and flirted uncontrollably yet she kept talking to him. Then he excused himself realizing she had a boyfriend but she just wanted to keep in contact knowing it made me uncomfortable. We were everything to each other at least she was for me I loved her more than anything. Fights started coming up for stupid reasons yet through all that I still loved her and she still fought for me. The fights kept coming up I was stressed with my mom who was sick with cancer. Towards the end she started getting fed up. She left to Australia for a one month trip knowing I was having a hard time at home and said she'll be back with me before I know it and was afraid id forget her. 5 days in she told me how much she wanted to be single, how she wished she had more time without a boyfriend and she isn't sure she wants to be with me anymore because of that. I broke up with her at that moment and she barely fought this time. I came back apologizing because I acted out of pain and how stressed I was with my mom. She wouldn't take me back. After she came back she kept on saying she's over me but wouldn't stop trying to make me jealous and even kissed Me while drunk and cried. Then weeks later she. got. the. guy. she. was. with. on. her. trip. to harass me over text. We agreed we should try to be friends because we have the same friends group. Anyway what was I to her? I still for some reason want her back
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Okay. so let me tell you something you won't like. Based on what you said she sounds like an uber B**. To answer your questions "what was I to her?" You were her emotionaly invested puppy dog with apposable thumbs. She's a girl that likes attention, and when she's not flirting around she's making sure she's got a back-up plan to fluff up her ego when she's at home and there aren't any readliy cute guys. It also gives her status to have a boyfriend in certain situations. She may have grown to care about you-- again as one cares for their puppy that loves them unconditionally. But she was never IN love with you. She wouldn't come back to you while in a forgein country because- 1. she's in a forgien country where she can be loose and hook up with guys with cute accents (plus its thrilling) and 2. didn't come back afterwards because she felt like she had gained confidence and no longer needed a fluffer.
I personally think her later actions are just a weird way of keeping you on her leash. It could be giving her a drama thrill or she could be just not be over the fights that you guys had and is holding a grudge. As to the thing about the guy who like her that she wouldn't stop talking to. If he was a good friend most girls wouldn't drop the guy, but its also possible he was her back-up plan if things went south with you. And secondly, for the while she was drunk statement about her friend not hooking up with you. It could be that she A- doesn't want you to be happy because of said grudge or B- is having a power stuggle in her clique to hold up that she's leader of the pack and stopping people from hooking up with you is how she keeps power. This is all a very negative view- but if you think deep down inside she's a nice person-- your question wouldn't have been so negative either. So going by how negative your question places her-- this is the response I've chosen to give. Also-- never date a girl on the rebound- they tend to be users.0