My ex broke up with me 2 months ago because she said she lost attraction because i was “clingy” and “needy”. But the thing is i really did need her. (a week before we broke up she told me how much she loved me and she could one day see herself marrying me and i bought her a 2 year gift that didn’t even happen yet and gave it to her). i also found out she is defiantly started talking to this kid about 3 weeks she started talking to some guy she worked with at home (I'm in college with her). i think its a rebound but still.
I finally sat down and spoke with her and she told me that she stated to loose feelings. She said it started back in march and she held it in until she broke up with me (not right on her part). and when i asked what happen she just said it didn't work out. i didn’t know there was a problem until the day she broke up with me. She said she wanted to still be friends but i told her i wasn’t ready for that right now because i still loved her.
Is it possible to lose attraction that fast and can it come back?
If so, what should i do to increase my odds of it coming back?
i think this kid is coming up here this weekend. how do i deal with that?
Any other advice in this will be appreciated
Most Helpful Girl
It's not she lost attraction... it's more so she lost love in you! She is still trying things out and wants to venture so she knows you will be there for her that's why she wants to keep you as a friend... but don't go back font be her friend because you will hurt yourself more!! You say "kid" so I take it he is young and THAT ONLY SHOWS that she feels as young as him venturing... she is experimenting new things new feelings feeling like she is a teen... let her have u r spotlight but don't wait for her and DON WANT HER BACK... because what makes you think that later on down the line if u do get her back she won't walk out on you with a family or a marriage?1
Most Helpful Guy
I've been in a state like this shortly after a break up - one in which you feel as though she is the only woman you could be interested in. People say there are plenty of fish in the sea, but you reject it in your gut. This is obsession, and I will propose a way to deal with it, as I think it is improbable that you will resume your relationship with this woman, and that even if you were to resume it repeated separation would be likely.
Start looking at other women, and do little favors for them. Hold the door for girls whom you don't know, and make nothing of it. Assist girls who are going through any kind of ordeal - bring an umbrella on rainy days so you can give or share it, help those who are carrying heavy things. Give more extensive help, as well as friendly gifts to women whom you do know - for instance, I do woodworking projects for the women in my life. This, and friendliness you may receive in return for your actions, will make you much more aware in your gut of that you have other options - women with whom you might feel more appreciated and generally happier.
Personally, I'm staying single for a good long while - I do a lot more favors for women when I'm single, and not only does it make me feel good, but I get much more appreciation from them than I've ever gotten from a romantic partner, due probably to that they weren't expecting it.0