My ex broke up with me 2 months ago because she said she lost attraction because i was “clingy” and “needy”. But the thing is i really did need her. (a week before we broke up she told me how much she loved me and she could one day see herself marrying me and i bought her a 2 year gift that didn’t even happen yet and gave it to her). i also found out she is defiantly started talking to this kid about 3 weeks she started talking to some guy she worked with at home (I'm in college with her). i think its a rebound but still.
I finally sat down and spoke with her and she told me that she stated to loose feelings. She said it started back in march and she held it in until she broke up with me (not right on her part). and when i asked what happen she just said it didn't work out. i didn’t know there was a problem until the day she broke up with me. She said she wanted to still be friends but i told her i wasn’t ready for that right now because i still loved her.
Is it possible to lose attraction that fast and can it come back?
If so, what should i do to increase my odds of it coming back?
i think this kid is coming up here this weekend. how do i deal with that?
Any other advice in this will be appreciated
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"But the thing is i really did need her". There's the problem. You NEVER need someone else in your life, you are a whole person and when you are in a relationship, you share your life. But never give. So no, you don't need her because she hasn't taken anything from you. That is not how relationships should be stabilized.
The guy could possibly be a rebound, but rebounds tend to happen when the feelings of loss and breaking up are new. She says she has been losing feelings for you for awhile, so chances are she was already moving on beforehand. However that was indeed weak and wrong of her to hide it from you.
However, yes I can see this guy being a rebound if you two had dated for about 3-6 months. 3 weeks seems too soon if your relationship was based off love and commitment.
I would let things play out and let time heal. I think she just needs time to herself and it is obvious she is still into you somewhat by trying to talk to you. If you love her, let her go, and if she loves you she will come back. Just don't be "clingy" in the way she said you were by trying to contact her as well.0