He broke up with me a year ago. We dated for 8.5 years. I was devastated for a really long time. We recently began speaking again. I should say he tried for MONTHS to talk to me & I refused. He emailed me a bunch.. Even went as far as to try to talk to my sister to get to me. I was soo hurt. Eventually I let my guard down & we began speaking casually.
Then it became clear their were feelings still there for both of us. We've slept together a few times since June. He's told me he still cares & thinks about me all the time.
We talk all the time. I've noticed he texts me more & goes out of his way to talk to me usually about inside jokes or literally what he's done that day. I don't ask. He initiates all conversations. So the other night my dog was missing & he came over to help me look. ( didn't tell him he found out through a friend).
The next day he texted me about the dog and then said "Wanna cuddle? I have to work n go to school but i feel like you could use a good cuddle as well ha"
Sooo I went over his house. We watched tv & cuddled. I lied down on his chest & could feel his heart was pounding! I asked him if he was ok and he said he was fine... and then he started kissing me. It was pretty intense & romantic.
He's in school full time. & interning & working. I don't want to pressure him but I need to know if this means anything or am I being delusional about us possibly getting back together. I get a vibe like he's scared to get back together & he's very busy.
Most Helpful Guy
He still cares, it's obvious. He broke up with you, figured out early on it was a mistake, tried to get back, sounds like he is knocking himself. And you are still smarting from the breakup and are understandably cautious. It doesn't sound like you two have had "the talk" that might include how hurt you were by the breakup, that you don't want to go through that again, what do each of you want if you are spending time together again. Are both your thinking about becoming a couple again? You aren't in high school, you are old enough to have a serious discussion about what you want and expect of each other. Good luck!0
Most Helpful Girl
what was the reason he broke up with you in the first place?
You two were together for a very long time so its only natural he's having a hard time forgetting about it
But kudos on making him work to get him to talk to you again you definitely did the right thing there.
Now he should respect how hard it was to get you just back to talking to him that he won't want to do anything to mess that up again.
which probably is why he's scared to get back together.
He definitely still likes you and his heart pounding sounds like he was nervous as well.1