He broke up with me a year ago. We dated for 8.5 years. I was devastated for a really long time. We recently began speaking again. I should say he tried for MONTHS to talk to me & I refused. He emailed me a bunch.. Even went as far as to try to talk to my sister to get to me. I was soo hurt. Eventually I let my guard down & we began speaking casually.
Then it became clear their were feelings still there for both of us. We've slept together a few times since June. He's told me he still cares & thinks about me all the time.
We talk all the time. I've noticed he texts me more & goes out of his way to talk to me usually about inside jokes or literally what he's done that day. I don't ask. He initiates all conversations. So the other night my dog was missing & he came over to help me look. ( didn't tell him he found out through a friend).
The next day he texted me about the dog and then said "Wanna cuddle? I have to work n go to school but i feel like you could use a good cuddle as well ha"
Sooo I went over his house. We watched tv & cuddled. I lied down on his chest & could feel his heart was pounding! I asked him if he was ok and he said he was fine... and then he started kissing me. It was pretty intense & romantic.
He's in school full time. & interning & working. I don't want to pressure him but I need to know if this means anything or am I being delusional about us possibly getting back together. I get a vibe like he's scared to get back together & he's very busy.
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I can only tell you how I would interpret that. Notice how you detailed that you initiated no conversations, that he had tried multiple times and angles to get back to you, came over to help you even when you didn't tell him yourself about the dog, etc. Notice it. Recognize the effort over an extended period of time. I would NEVER do this if I were not serious, and if I were not intent on trying my best to get you to recognize how I felt. This man sounds genuine, but I know I only have part of the story.
That said, I suppose it really depends on what you broke up over, and whether or not it was rational for you to have felt so hurt that you would not let him back in the door. But most importantly, I think it's extremely important that you decide for yourself if you can forget and forgive. You would really have to commit, and try not to make this fella feel the burden of having broken up with you once before. I don't know who initiated nor for what reason, but I think generally speaking that there are times between lovers where space is needed to figure things out. It happened to two of my good friends 3 years ago, and they stayed in contact. They are now happily married and true partners in crime.1