My ex-boyfriend and I broke up around 2 weeks ago. At first, he expressed a genuine want to be friends. He said he needs time until he feels "back to normal," but that he had faith in us becoming friends later down the line. We go to the same school and see each other every day (we share 3 classes), and for the most part, we don't speak at all. I figured this was just due to him wanting time/space. However, we have a class retreat coming up, so just yesterday I asked if he was feeling more comfy/ready with being friendly. He suddenly tells me that he isn't sure yet if he wants to be friends. He told me he's not thinking about it, wants me to stop asking about it, and that the more I talk to him about this stuff, the more confused he'll be. Also, this was over text – he cut it off by saying "I'm gonna stop responding because you're stressing me out." I never heard from him since. So now I'm confused? why does is he suddenly confused about wanting to be friends (he went from saying "yes" to "i'm not sure yet" in just two days)? what can I do to help the situation? He's clearly frustrated with me, and i'm hoping space will allow him to figure himself out, but when (if at all) should I approach him about being friends again?
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You contacted him a bit too early it seems, since 2 weeks is such a short period of time anyways, and this caused him some stress since it's bringing up the weight of the breakup.
Give it some more time, better yet as hard as it sounds focus on other things. Nothing is being gained from worrying whether the friendship is possible, if it happens it'll happen naturally.0