We had been together for 6 years and for the past 3 years we hadn't had a break up. Yes arguments here and there but nothing huge. I've encountered a family crisis where I would've thought he'd be there for me as I would think and boyfriend would be. But he always seems to choose his family over me or his 2 boys (our sons). He's taken off without even looking back many times in the past. But this time it's been a month to round it off. How can I make it easy on myself to not contact him? I want him to realize that if he decided to form a family with me he should at least be a father to his boys and come around for them! How can I give hime the ultimatum? ?
So long sucker?
What Guys Said 5
Giving ultimatums is not a good relationship move. It usually just leads to more strife especially for children. You two already sound like you like sound communication.
You need to express to him why whatever he's doing isn't working for the two children and you. If he doesn't abide don't give him an ultimatum, just leave.1
Giving ultimatums or saying "so long sucker" is definitely a total bomb to throw in a relationship.
People don't respond well to ultimatums.
And in the end he may decide that since you start making threats his family is more important than someone who give him "my way or the high way" type choices.1
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To Give Him An Ultimatum You Must Tell Him What It Is, Tell Him What You Want To Happen In The Relationship, If He Still doesn't Come Around Then There Is Nothing You Can Do Honestly, It's Not Possible To Force A Relationship Back So Dont Even Try...0
What Girls Said 2
Time to break free, sweetie, and the Only thing you Should be concerned about from this day forward is: You and your two sons.
Sit him down, when he comes around again, and tell him where it is at. He sounds immature, doesn't want a Real relationship with you, Nor cares enough about you and your 2 sons to boot. He doesn't want a Commitment, nor be hooked at the hip, and if he isn't there for you now, he May never be in the future. You are not a top priority, just his 'trophy wife' where he can come and go when he feels like it.
Make arrangements for him to visit just the boys, but cut yourself out of the loop hole and---Out of his life as far as any 'Contact' goes, if you know what I mean with this...
Don't 'look back at the past' yourself... He has a long ways to go and may never reach his destination with You nor Anyone.
Good luck. xx1
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