Hello everyone, I'm struggling to move on after an abusive relationship. Me & my ex bf were together almost 4 years and things were great until the last year. He began to act impatient with me, rude to me, and would verbally abuse me (i didn't realize it at the time). He ended the relationship 8 months ago when I approached him about cheating on me. During the argument I started crying and he was telling me how much he hated me & didn't give a fuck about me. Then he pushed me to the floor.
Looking back, I didn't realize it but he had been verbally/emotionally abusing me since last year and finally escalated to physical. I'm ok now but sometimes my mind falls on it & its like I hear him saying those awful things he used to say to me. How did I not recognize it? That's what I struggle with the most, as well as, reminding myself that the things he said to me aren't true. For example "you're a weak ass person", "all you do is stress me out", "you have a nasty attitude and are a horrible person".,..
He contacted me a month ago but I refused to speak with him. As far as I'm concerned, there's nothing to say. Sorry that this is so long but I'm hurting still and I don't understand why. Thanks for reading.
Most Helpful Guy
time is going to be the greatest healer. also just remembering that the things he said were untrue and said by a person with a sickness (being an abuser is a sickness). you may consider going to counseling just to learn how to move past the matter. they will help you gain perspective and see things in the correct light0
Most Helpful Girl
Sorry to hear that. I was in an abusive relationship for nearly 7 years and I finally left my ex last year and myself and my daughters went into a womens refuge. For about 5 years he was emotionally, financially, sexually and physically abusive but I stayed with him for all that time thinking I loved him and he would change. They never do. It wasn't until he threatened to cut my throat in front of our daughter that I decided enough was enough but believe me it wasn't easy. I would say I was hurting for a good 7/8 months and still sometimes am angry but because of my daughter. It won't go away but believe me eventually you will get past that stage and find someone worthy of having you. As hard as it is dont go back it will only get worse.0