My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months. When we do hang out, everything's generally fine, we have amazing chemistry as well.
Since the beginning, he's been really bad at scheduling things though. Like we'll make plans a few days in advance, I'll have to remind him and when I say I have an issue with being his 'mom' in that sense, he guilt-trips me. This weekend I went out drinking with him and some friends, during which he made no apparent effort to sit near me or even be around me, and frequently would just leave with someone outside.
That is nothing new. I have been putting up with it since the start, among other things, choosing not to fight a losing battle. He said he'd see me tomorrow after class as well as Friday. He forgot about Friday already, and said he might not be able to do tomorrow due to scheduling conflicts with his class. I get that's out of his control, but I'm just wondering why I should stop myself from hanging out with other nice guys when this is just the start of the semester, and every time something like this happens he guilt-trips me for even being sad and will almost excuse it by saying school is very important to him.
I do love him and enjoy spending time with him, but have the circumstances changed enough that I should break up with him, or at least have a serious discussion?
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Start spending time with other nice guys, and blowing him off - or not doing the scheduling.
You'll quickly see whether or not you're important to him.
No need to break up just yet. It will probably happen on its own when he doesn't prioritize you enough to spend time with you/when you find someone else. OTOH, maybe he'll get his shit together when you're not around, and it turns out that he missing spending time with you.0