My ex and I broke up almost five months ago basically because he wasn't ready to settle down nor does he want to for a very long time until after he gets his life and career together. I barely agreed to be his friend. It's fine for the most part but he would tell me about all these girls he's been talking to and would get offended if I got mad at him for telling me. He got all defensive when I call him out for pretending he didn't see me in person at times (particularly at a concert). I've been so fed up with him taking advantage of the situation, I have tried talking it out with him but all he says is to distract myself and forget about the past (which I don't miss him so I see the reasoning as invalid). I am still hurt though. A lot.
The past two or three weeks, I have been ignoring him for the most part. He tries talking to me at least two or three times a day and I reply every once in awhile. It's been more frequent lately. I feel bad because he's generally such a nice guy with a good heart but I'm tired of the shit he puts me through. Why does he keep trying to talk to me? I've ignored seven or eight snapchats from him in the past day or so (I know they're usually sent to other people as well).
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This is a case of "I don't want a commitment but I don't want you out of my life either"- the old wanting to have his cake and eat it too. They still want to keep you in their realm to keep tabs on you. It's partly a control thing. As soon as you pull away, he'll want you and the second you give him attention, he plays games. It is never a good idea to remain friends with an ex unless it's years down the road. You need to cut off all contact - you need to heal and move forward and he's being unfair to you. This is What he's trying to avoid but that's too bad. Have respect for yourself and set the boundary. If there is a chance you guys will get back together, it won't ever happen if you remain friends. He needs to see what life is like without you for a while.0