I recently had a fallout with my recent guy who I was dating for about 4-5 months. I met him at the gym I go to about 5-6 times a week, he is a personal trainer there. First 3 months was great, we connected from the get go and everything happened very naturally. Then he got a job offer in a different State, so he wanted some time to think alone. I let him be and did my things, but we still talked. Then fast forward about 2 months, he became a little bit distant so I asked him what was wrong but he didn't answer. I'm the kind of girl who wants everything straightforward (no matter it hurts or not). I asked him to tell me the truth and he told me that he recently reconnected with his ex girlfriend. And now he is torn between her and me. He said to give him about a week to think it over. I did. Then about 5 days after that, I saw him holding hands, kissing, and shopping with her at the mall... I went straight to them and said hello, and told him it's over. Then he said he loves her... but he cares for me deeply... This happened about 5 days ago, since then I stopped going to the gym when I know he is there. (So I've been going to the gym very late at night). But I don't want to change my routine just because of this, I love going to the gym in the day time and I hate having to change my schedule... I told myself "NO CONTACT" with him, but it's not fair for me to avoid gym when I want to go because of him. Should I just go whenever I want to and ignore him? or Should I stay clear from him? I still have feelings for him so if I see him there, it'll hurt me but I'm getting over it and healing. (Because I won't be another woman... to anyone!) Please help me, what should I do? Stay clear or just go to the gym?
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Can I just say, I really admire how you handled this situation with such class and dignity. I would continue going to the gym as you've always done. No need to interact with him, but you shouldn't have to reorganize your life and routine over this. I know it'll hurt to see him for a while, but like you said, you're getting over it and healing. You sound like a strong, level-headed person - I'm sure you'll be fine in no time.0