I did used to have a lot of uncontrollable outbursts and attack him when we missed even a day of contact. He also now decides to take all my 'angry words' literally and actually wants to convince himself that 'I never loved him'. So, I think he is hostile still and it has been 1.5 months. There's also stress in his life now from work and family, so I am just the icing on the cake. Now, he just says 'I will contact you when I'm not busy'. He's a nasty beast at the moment, but I'm trying to see his pain as well.
He also keeps saying 'we will never be back the same or together in the same way', but then also says I have to 'work on A to B before getting to Z'. It is all so mixed up at this point and I am tired of the space between us.
Is seems like he is basically vulnerable and enraged, so doesn't want to get hurt again by immediately reentering a relationship. I just know that if we didn't reconnect soonish than I am never going to talk to him again because this is torture for me and friends is not an option.
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Take time away from him. Serious time. Months. Even if you've made small changes in the time you've been broken up, that's nowhere near enough to have any real change. If you want a long lasting relationship with this guy, you have to give him time. You were not a nice person to him in the past, for however long it was. He needs time to sort through those feelings and you need to take time to work on yourself as well