I am dealing with a very temperamental 30 y/o boy that refuses to engage in regular contact until he has seen me 'correct my mistakes'. He says that I should have expected him to me mad for longer than a month or even two months. He still seems to have a lot of anger towards me as if he holds me totally responsible for him breaking up with me. He said that it was because of my attitude, selfishness, high expectations and the fact that I never took his words seriously in order to correct my mistakes.
I did used to have a lot of uncontrollable outbursts and attack him when we missed even a day of contact. He also now decides to take all my 'angry words' literally and actually wants to convince himself that 'I never loved him'. So, I think he is hostile still and it has been 1.5 months. There's also stress in his life now from work and family, so I am just the icing on the cake. Now, he just says 'I will contact you when I'm not busy'. He's a nasty beast at the moment, but I'm trying to see his pain as well.
He also keeps saying 'we will never be back the same or together in the same way', but then also says I have to 'work on A to B before getting to Z'. It is all so mixed up at this point and I am tired of the space between us.
Is seems like he is basically vulnerable and enraged, so doesn't want to get hurt again by immediately reentering a relationship. I just know that if we didn't reconnect soonish than I am never going to talk to him again because this is torture for me and friends is not an option.
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Buy some life insurance. This guy is going to kill you.
You are throwing gasoline on a fire with a warped ideal the liquid will put out the fire. Have the police pay him a visit and if need be obtain an order of protection.
You don't need him in your life. He needs to get his life together before dragging you through the trash with him. If you love him, make sure you have life insurance and make someone a millionaire.0