So after the break up, we remained best friends though I have been taking longer to heal than he has. It's hard staying friends with an ex you fell in love with when he moves on and hits on other girls and such and you both know it happens. It led to me overreacting over how I would think he distanced himself with me though I might have had something to do with it and me getting upset that he doesn't want to spend time with me even as friends anymore (we hung out a lot after until a month after we broke up, and when he did ask I knew I was a last resort). I have also been going through a very rough patch since around the time we broke up (the break up didn't cause it but a lot of other things have been going on in my life as well) and I think that might have had something to do with my overreaction.
When I tried to talk about it with him one last time, he never replied to my text (we're an hour apart right now because of school) and when I called him out on it he said he has nothing to say and that he's too busy to deal with that stuff. I told him bye and to never talk to me again. That was last week. Didn't hear from him since then.
Now I know what he said was rude but since then I have been doing fine except I hate how I lost my best friend and I'm hurt on how he responded after he told me not too long before that, how I'm his best friend and how he will always want me around in his life. I felt like a terrible person ignoring almost every text of his for almost 2-3 weeks straight. I deleted every single picture with him on every social media site, even the profile pictures on Facebook. I'm afraid if I try getting him back in my life, those feelings of being hurt will come back but I'm willing to put friendship before anything this time though sometimes I feel like he treated me like shit. The relationship itself was great but after that is where every bad thing between us has happened.
Now can anyone tell me why I feel like this and what should I do?
Most Helpful Girl
Many times when two people Break Up doesn't mean they Can't And Don't Make Up and that it Means: Goodbye, my love forever. And with this missing, comes the kissing, finding even More often a Friends with benefits factor, with no strings attached, no hooked at the hip, and ground rules have been laid Down----But maybe by One of you only.
And with being in one another's lives once again, a Bestie bud relationship Bond has formed, friends till the end, but there is Most of the time, a heavy Price with this Tall Order And it Is--------Your heart that hasn't moved on, the other half Has, and there you Are, Hurting and hoping, Asking yourself Now----What should I do?
Being he has Obviously 'Moved on,' sweetie, playing the field, making a life in his Own circle of friends, and seeing you 'Over react' as you do, he is skiddish now, puts you on his pay no mind list, and is giving you helpful hints by 'Distancing himself' that he doesn't want to a Real relationship anymore, he wants to be his own free agent, he doesn't want to feel you are looking and lurking around him, and Above All----He wants you to move on, Not using him as a First Resort.
I think it is best that you Do just That and just forget him. You tried the Friends in need' deal, it failed miserably, your heart was the monkey in the middle, and this guy will never change his own zebra stripes Now that he is Out there and enjoying life to its fullest.
It's good you 'Deleted' these things from the past, and with no contact, just nothing, Now you are free to lick your wounds, spend some time with yourself soul searching, and with everything else going on in your life, this will make it easier in the long run to Say----So long, baby, sorry I was such a burden.
Yes, I feel you got a raw deal, but he never made any promises, just really wanted you back in his life on the sidelines, but by leaving you on the back burner, it was just for convenience and Yes----A last resort at his own 'Convenience.'
Good luck. xx0