I thought my now ex boyfriend was a good guy when I first met him.
He seemed sweet and relationship oriented. I enjoyed being with him and he made me so happy.
A few months later I learn he has a lot of problems in life-divorce that was only final a MONTH before we met! loose finances and debts, it was also really bitter, and he acted defensive if I wanted to know details.
I also started to see disrespectful behavior, and he implied that I was texting other guys when I was not.
I saw a lot of red flags and knew I had to walk away. I knew the relationship would not work and I did not feel happy in it anymore.
I am in a sense relieved, but I feel a HUGE sadness and loss.
I dated jerks before and I thought this guy was different. Realizing that he turned into a jerk and controller (which means he could even be an abuser) and that he got annoyed at me for wanting to know about his life... reminded me too much of other exes.
Accepting that this guy i truly cared for, was intimate with, and thought could be my future, is just another jerk... is very painful. I thought I even loved him at a point. It isn't even the relationship loss I'm mourning, it's the fact that what I thought was a good guy and my future was just a jerk. That hurts me so much.
Can anyone relate?
Most Helpful Guy
u need to understand he's been hurt... it takes time to get over such things... it makes a man very defensive and bitter with relationships...
all the same u were right to ditch him ude just end up being unhappy and have the same emotional scars as he has now... every1 our age has them... i myself gave everything to the only 2 relationships I've ever had and both left me with pain... my first lasted 4 years and my 2nd for about a year... both cheated on me and im not terribly thrilled about it... u just have to deal with emotional baggage because thats life1
Most Helpful Girl
same thing happended here... met this cool nice guy at the gas station he was nice and sweet... we dated for awhile after we had sex he told me he had 8 kids... and he also began acting out towards me... calling me whenever he wanted, trying to get me to have threesomes with him, he even said fucc you to me when i told him i would not be waking up at 5 am to drive 30 minutes to his new apartment.. i hate him but i am sad because i never thought hed be that way , and i never usually talk to strangers that try to pick up on me but for some reason i did with him... and its just dissapointment... like i dont like his personality i know he's shitty im just hurt and dissapointed that he didn't show his true colors before and that i let myself fall for him and get played...0