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Honesty. Brutal honesty. Don't tell him "I don't know" why I don't want to keep seeing you. "It's just not working out for me." Or "I don't know what I was attracted to back then." Why? Give him real reasons.0
Honesty. Brutal honesty. Don't tell him "I don't know" why I don't want to keep seeing you. "It's just not working out for me." Or "I don't know what I was attracted to back then." Why? Give him real reasons.
Well... the way of letting him down easily... just doesn't exist. He will be bummed, probably sad and might hurt some but that's the way these things go.
Take him some place private. Make calm neutral eye contact. Say:
"It's not working for me any more. I'm just not into it and it wouldn't be fair for either of us to stay together. I hope we can still be friends, but I'll understand if we can't. I'm sorry for hurting you like this.
Then walk away. No hug, no nothing. Just a clean break. Don't answer questions or get into a discussion of how or why or if there's a chance of you not dumping him. Just tell him and leave. Do not initiate contact.
it doesn't matter how you say he'll still be hurt.
It's never an easy Task to let Someone 'Down easy when the other half doesn't feel the same way anymore in mind, body And------Heart. However, if things are getting way out of hand, out of control, have 'Escalated' into something More that you never anticipated, then it is time to face the Not so sweet music.
As painful as it will be for not just Him but for you, you need to get together alone, face to face and have a long talk with him about everything. Sending a text seems heartless and feeling less so I wouldn't suggest that.
He may react in a way that will upset you both, make it hard to walk away, but you need to tell him that you would just like to keep things lite and semi sweet and that you have to lay down some ground rules so you both can at least go back to being Just----Friends.
He may Reject you, end the friendship, but it is either That or go on living a lie with him, ending up breaking his heart any way you slice the cake.
Good luck. xx
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