This guy is really pissing me off. I don't think I have sent any hints that I am okay with his behavior or anything. I am just friendly like I am with every other person. For the past 4 weeks, he has tried to take contact with me though calling, texting, facebooking, snapping.. etc. At first I was only friendly with him (cause my best friend is a good friend of his), but later on I started to notice how he was flirting. asking me to hang out one time ever week, dance with him, exercise with him, Skype with him.. etc. The list goes on and on. As harmless as some of this things seems, I notice that he is interested in more than just friendship. Cause I hanged out with him once (my boyfriend knows) where it was pretty obvious (wanted to take me out for dinner, watch a movie, he meeting my friend. I meeting his friends). Last night he posted about how mad he was on a girl, depressed, how he didn't want to live and sad he was. He had already said "hey" to me that day, but I didn't answer. I saw this and got worried. So I asked him if he was ok, he was like no.. We can hang out again, and I will tell you all about it (is this a trick?). I am mad, and don't know how I will turn him down in a nice, but sure way. I just want him to stop. If not friendship than I am not interested. I am in a committed relationship, and has been for almost 2 year (but dated for 1 year before), so this is a very huge problem. It has been rocky lately because of this.
by the way he knows I am in a relationship, but I guess he doesn't care.
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Just cut contact. Don't buy into his manipulation. It's just a way to try and guilt you into keeping him around. He sounds like the type of guy who mistakes friendliness and attention for you liking him. If cutting him off entirely doesn't work, be blunt. Tell him you don't see him as anything other than as a friend, and if he keeps it up he'll lose that as well. Sometimes it takes a little harshness to drive the point home.1