I want to go to the police station to get a copy of the police report to prove that I am not lying about what happened that day. I've tried to take the high road and be the bigger person throughout all of this, but it's gotten to the point where I feel like I have to defend myself and I don't know how else to do it other than getting a copy of the police report to prove people wrong. The people who matter the most to me know the truth and believe me. In fact, we live in a very small town and most people know the truth. He was absolutely in the wrong that day. He choked me and hit me multiple times. There was a witness who saw and called the cops (I did not call the cops). However, my ex boyfriend is doing everything he can to try to make it seem like I either am responsible for everything, or that I made everything up.
I feel like I am in a position where I need to defend myself. It's mostly all his friends who are siding with him, which I understand, but I'm not sure if they truly believe he did nothing or if they are just lying to people to try to protect him. Which I understand. But I am clearly the victim in this matter and I'm sick of certain people making me out to be the bad guy. This all gets back to me because there are plenty of people who know the truth and they want me to know that this is what's being said... but I feel like I cannot move on and let this go until I prove to everyone the truth.
Is that really necessary? So far I have kept my mouth shut and tried to be the bigger person. But hearing all these lies from my ex boyfriend is really hurtful and disrespectful. Should I get a copy of the police report to show to people? Will that make me look crazy or immature? I don't want to disrespect my ex, however, I don't want idiots to continue to slander me and my name.
Most Helpful Guy
There is a quote that goes "Words are singularly the most powerful force available to humanity. We can choose to use this force constructively with words of encouragement, or destructively using words of despair. Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate and to humble".
I think by saying and doing nothing, you are simply being the better person. I think there is a time to defend oneself and a time to look forward and say, "better to simply put this behind me". You have your health, your life and the person who hurt you is now simply word of mouth and no longer a physical part of you life. He sounds like someone not worth knowing or wasting anymore energy on. Move on with your life and let it be... Good luck...1
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@ I've tried to take the high road and be the bigger person throughout all of this,
why.., i dont understand this. he beat you. he should pay for it. end of story. being a big or small or flay or round person has nothing to do with anything.
fact of the matter is he committed a crime consciously and must face the consequences. its not your job to soften the blow. its his job to own up. if he won't do out on his own he needs to be forced.
I'm getting the picture that you probably had other occasions where you should have done something but wanted to rise above it all be the big person. dont ever do that again. someone uses violence against you thats it. give no more chances. take action.
and toss any asshole out of your life who is choosing to mitigate disregard and demean our experience and or your word. no use for those people.2